1. Surrender to the Future; Focus on the Now
I’ve spent much of my life focused on the future. Trying to constantly figure out who, what, where, when, and why, next. Never being truly satisfied with where I am, I am often hyper-focused on how to be elsewhere, and what that even is. It’s been discouraging when something you think could be THE thing, isn’t. I’m learning to let go of needing to know the answer to everything, and just focusing on what I am doing right NOW, for NOW. My careful imaginings and worryings of things in my head obviously haven’t helped. I’m surrendering to what I’ll possibly be doing in the future and how I’ll get there. After all, looking back – I could have never planned any of what’s happened.
2. Do What Feels Right
This is related to the first lesson – I’m learning to lead less with the head and more with the heart. For the past year, it’s about honouring my feminine energy and going with my intuition and feelings. I’m a pretty intuitive person, but have been repressing this way too much. It’s hard not to when living in a masculine society. It’s pretty simple: Does it feel good/bring joy? Do more of it. As soon as it doesn’t – or if there’s more days where it feels bad more than good, then stop. Let your heart be your compass.
3. I’m a Creative Soul
I’d grown up being artsy – loving to draw, paint, and making things. Somewhere along the way that part of me was lost. It’s a funny thing. Since becoming a virtual assistant, I’ve reawakened that part of me. I forgot how much I enjoy it, and so I’ve evolved into a creative virtual assistant! I love seeing and working with colours, shapes, images, and creating. Sometimes it’s still a bit scary because I’ve been so out of touch with it, but know it’s just a matter of time. I’m excited to see how I can bring even more art and creativity back into my life.
4. Work-Life Balance, Self Care, Fun!
This is a constant battle – reminding myself that we all have different needs and knowing that I need a work-life balance and time for myself to enjoy life! I’ve learned that when it’s all work and no play – I’m not a happy camper – and that doesn’t help anyone! My body quickly gives me a nudge in the form of headaches, breakouts, or insomnia. So, I am accepting and owning that I need more time away from screens, because that helps me feel and work better overall – that helps everyone!
5. Crying is Healing
I was never an emotional person growing up; now, crying is kind of a regular thing. Sometimes for no real reason. But I embrace feeling feelings and allowing myself to process them. Often great insight comes from a good cry! I think it’s the purging of shit that keeps you from being in touch with your true essence.
6. Entrepreneurship is the Quickest Form of Self Development
Self-work is important to me, and I always try to be better, but my comfort zone has never been tested so much than in the past few months as a new entrepreneur. It’s taught me to take more risks, push boundaries, dream bigger, and be more fearless. I’ve done things I never thought I could, and made tons of mistakes, but learned so much from them. I’ve learned what I like, and what I don’t. At the end of the day, you realize you’re in the driver’s seat and you call all the shots – which is terrifying if things go wrong, but then what’s possible if it goes right?
7. Patience, My Love
I have a pretty patient personality. Usually. I’m pretty tolerant and laid-back with people, but when it comes to work and business, I just want things now – or better yet, yesterday. It’s hard to not play the comparison game: “so-and-so looks so successful,” or “so-and-so just bought a house,” or “so-and-so’s life is SO put together”. But no one wins in the comparison game. I say it’s about gratitude for the present, and trusting that I am where I am suppose to be, right now.
It’s interesting to think that back in January, I was unemployed and had just decided on moving to Australia! It’s the end of December now, and well, I didn’t end up moving there. I stayed for what seemed like a “dream job”. Well, I have indeed embarked on a grand adventure into entrepreneurship – now I’m working on creating my own dream job!
I wish you all the most wonderful things for 2016!
Please share your 2015 reflections with me; I’d love to hear!